It was such a privilege to capture this unscripted, intimate and decisive moment in Katie and Mick’s story! And such a joy for us as photographers to know they will forever have pictures of the moment she said “yes!” and so began their plans and dreams of their life together in marriage!
Thinking about when Glen proposed to me, I can still recall the moment and the feelings so well. I knew he was going to ask a moment or two before he did, but it still was an unearthly, transcendent moment, my feet in the cold creek water and the golden-green light falling softly through the leaves of the forest trees, just us in the woods and him asking me to be his wife in this perfectly ordinary, yet undeniably remarkable moment. My heart was racing and a thousand thoughts flooded through my head making it impossible to get any speech out for probably a full minute (and Glen will tell you that it felt like an hour as he waited for my reply!) It is such an incredibly vulnerable thing- that place where this person you care for so deeply, shows their hand, lays their heart wide open for you to decide upon. A place of vulnerability for both the one asking and the one being asked, to see clear into the soul of your love, to be so exposed, to be so wanted and to declare it so and to promise to forsake all others for the one you love.
Glen and I’s story has many twists and turns, a breakup, a long distance courtship and a short engagement before we were married 4 years ago. We’ve known each other for nearly 10 years and our understanding of marriage is that you choose in and choose each other everyday. That there will be messy days and good days, indescribably blissful days and hard days. And days when you don’t want to talk to each other. But you choose in, especially on the days when you don’t “feel” in love. Feelings come and go, ebb and flow, according to so many things, the weather, our hunger or hormones, and changing circumstance. Not saying that feeling in love is not important but there is something more important; which is actually loving your spouse. Acting in a loving way creates more feelings of love.
C.S. Lewis writes, “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness.
But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless — it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
This “risk of tragedy” or for some perhaps the “risk of failure” can keep you hidden and shut up, safe, but it’s suffocating. I have been there and I have lived in that way. I am so grateful for the ways that dating and being married to Glen has changed me for the better, helping me to become more okay with being vulnerable, and being okay with failing, messing up and asking for forgiveness. You can’t love someone else perfectly. But there is Perfect Love in Christ and two imperfect people clinging to His love can become something gloriously beautiful.
Katie and Mick, may you always choose love and fight for each other fiercely! We are so excited for this amazing adventure you are on together!